Is being
good a bad thing nowadays?
I have been told I trust too easily, by friends, colleagues and family. Why? Is trust not valuable now? And is giving in a bad thing to do?
Taking for example, I knew my career was going nowhere, however, this is a place that can help me in my salary increment – money, something that is of upmost importance to me now as my flat and wedding are coming. However, if I had stayed on, it’s going to be a dent in my career. What am I doing now is practically administrative work, and that is the reason for me to run away from my comfortable 3 years zone in my previous workplace.
So, happily, I got another offer from another company that apparently seems to be offering me a career path that can accelerates to where I want to be, eventually. The cons – they’re offering me the same salary and I’ll be missing out my current company’s bonus as well as my annual increment. Well, but for the sake of my future, I’ve decided to go ahead.
Friends said I’m silly, I should ask for more and should have stick to my decision of higher salary but my thought is what’s my justification for a higher asking salary? I would stick around in the company to work my way and prove my worth, shouldn’t it be the case?
Okay, fine, I gave in but shouldn’t I?
Another example was I have a very good friend who needed cash to fund her studies. I am not sure of the reason why but she didn’t take a loan and asked if I could help.
I thought long and hard about it. This was the 3rd time since her studies that she had been asking around for funds and approached me. I know it’s tough; I’ve been through it myself, I begged for help and was rejected by the very people who said I am their precious in the past. So, I decided, okay, fine, I’ll take out my savings (which is practically all) for her to study.
She promised to return on a monthly basis for the next 6 months.
Is that foolish?
Colleagues, friends and family told me not to do it. They said that she should have predicted the money necessary for her studies and saved up instead of approaching for help. But, why not help? Isn’t a friend in need a friend indeed?
So, what? Being too good is bad for a person or should we selectively be good?
I have been told I trust too easily, by friends, colleagues and family. Why? Is trust not valuable now? And is giving in a bad thing to do?
Taking for example, I knew my career was going nowhere, however, this is a place that can help me in my salary increment – money, something that is of upmost importance to me now as my flat and wedding are coming. However, if I had stayed on, it’s going to be a dent in my career. What am I doing now is practically administrative work, and that is the reason for me to run away from my comfortable 3 years zone in my previous workplace.
So, happily, I got another offer from another company that apparently seems to be offering me a career path that can accelerates to where I want to be, eventually. The cons – they’re offering me the same salary and I’ll be missing out my current company’s bonus as well as my annual increment. Well, but for the sake of my future, I’ve decided to go ahead.
Friends said I’m silly, I should ask for more and should have stick to my decision of higher salary but my thought is what’s my justification for a higher asking salary? I would stick around in the company to work my way and prove my worth, shouldn’t it be the case?
Okay, fine, I gave in but shouldn’t I?
Another example was I have a very good friend who needed cash to fund her studies. I am not sure of the reason why but she didn’t take a loan and asked if I could help.
I thought long and hard about it. This was the 3rd time since her studies that she had been asking around for funds and approached me. I know it’s tough; I’ve been through it myself, I begged for help and was rejected by the very people who said I am their precious in the past. So, I decided, okay, fine, I’ll take out my savings (which is practically all) for her to study.
She promised to return on a monthly basis for the next 6 months.
Is that foolish?
Colleagues, friends and family told me not to do it. They said that she should have predicted the money necessary for her studies and saved up instead of approaching for help. But, why not help? Isn’t a friend in need a friend indeed?
So, what? Being too good is bad for a person or should we selectively be good?
