Planning the ROM

Horrors or delights?

Planning a ROM is not as difficult as planning a traditional wedding but when things go wrong, a delightful event can turn into the horrible nightmare of yours! *Gasps!*

Well, my ROM has just passed a week ago. :) Coincidentally, the date is the same marriage date as one of my good friend. :) Talk about being besties, marriage date is the same too. It was not selected on purposes. mr. Bambam and I went to select the good date with a fengshui master :)

So, how did I manage my ROM? The built up of events are as follows:-

1. Make an appointment with the fengshui master on 24 December 2011, 11am to select our marriage dates

2. Research and select a few venues for ROM

• Furama Riverfront
• Changi Village Hotel
• Grand Copthorne

2.1 Check on the availability dates of hotel

2.2 Reccee hotel on an impromptu basis on 6 January 2012, visited Furama and Grand Copthorne

3. mr. Bambam prefers Grand Copthorne for its ambience and stylish outlook as compared to Furama

4. Email the coordinator of Grand Copthorne to arrange for an actual viewing of their venue

We went somewhere in Jan/Feb, there were 2 rooms that is suitable for coordinating ROM but unfortunately, the bigger room was taken (mr. Bambam and I loved the bigger room as the receiption area is very enclosed and belongs to a private area). Therefore, we had to take the Paradiso Room instead which can only seat up to 40pax.

5. Make the downpayment for the hotel

6. Preparing guest lists (only for close relatives)

As there are limited seats, I can't invite my friends already. :'( But good thing that there is the wedding dinner for us to invite them :)

Oh oh! And my ROM hotel coordinator left. So we are stuck with a new guy and he was quite helpful about the whole event :)

7. Prepare invites (design and done by me using powerpoint) :) Printed using canon printer (good quality!) and used hard shiny glossy paper. Got quite good comments on the printing :)

8. Gown and coat

I happily tried my gown in September and have choosen the one I like. It's a little pink fluffly dress and it looks absolutely cute. Totally not a bride style (white and all) but it's the only one that fits me perfectly :) Talking about getting the right dress, I think what matters is the feeling and let your heart decides when you put on the gown.

Coat for guys - G2000 is the safest ^^,

9. Shoes and accessories - Shoes from METRO and accessories from Taobao :)

10. Photographer and make up artist - Friend and he's quite good!! Make up artist from bridal shop

11. Justice of Peace (Solemniser) - Mr. Chia Ti Yu 

11.1 Met and signed the consent form - 2 September 2012

12. Choose march in song - Select one that you can do a grand march in, I choose something instrumental with dynamics :)

10. Apply with ROM and get certificate (File application on 25 Aug 2012) - Applied on 2 September 2012, paid $26

11. Decorations in function room (Fake flower petals / Balloons)
mr. Bambam's close friends did alot of great help by decorating forus, last minute stye :)

12. Ring pillows - free one from Lee Hwa

13. Wedding bands - Lee Hwa

14. Hand bouquet

15. Door gifts - bought from Taobao, swans + sweets.

Actually, it is quite tedious but I am glad everything went smoothly (with some hiccups) but yeah, that's how our ROM is done.  ^_^



Two sides of story, two sides of a coin

I finally woke up from my deep slumber.

After my fun dinner and dance last night, I fell asleep at 1am and finally woke up completely at 2pm today (13 hours of sleep, I must be burned out completely).

As with extended sleep, you will sometimes go into REM sleep whereby your brain actively works and make you dream. I have dreams every now and then. Surprisingly, people say they don't remember dreams. Out of 100 dreams, I remember 75% of them.

And as usual, today, I had one of those weird dreams again. The first dream was pretty normal - I can't remember much details but I just remembered mr. Bambam's family strike 4D and the amount was huge :) Happy dream.

Subsequently, there were some episodes of dreams but they were those forgettable ones.

The last dream I had and the last dream that woke me up completely with tears flowing was about mr. Bambam and me.

In this dream, I remember the song playing "你怎么舍得我难过" at the background. I was asleep in the dream and was supposed to meet mr. Bambam at 9pm. However, I was very tired and woke up at 7.30pm. Flustered and afraid of being late, I rushed to the meeting point. But somehow, I think something happened somewhere.

The next scene, I was looking at mr. Bambam from a third party angle. He looked depressed and he was tearing while walking home. The whole scene breaks my heart - I've never seen him cry before and he looks tragic, like something big happened. I followed him closely and noted that everyone he knows was giving him a pat and saying things to him. He briefly smiled and said "I'm okay."

Then he walked past a television (those big box kind like 90s TVs) and stopped to hear this song again "你怎么舍得我难过". That's when he completely break down and hold on to a matchbox containing 3 matches.

Okay, so sad right? But maybe my brain is thinking what the heck happened, this story has no clear starting and ending. Where's the climax?! What happened exactly?

So, I was transported to another scene whereby I saw these two guys talking. The first smaller size guy was telling the other guy, "His (mr. Bambam) life is so like yours. You two do the same job and your dad left you (died) while his wife left him (died). And both of your loved ones left behind a matchbox containing 3 matches. He (mr. Bambam) has not light the matches yet but you....."

The bigger guy was gritting his teeth and said, "He's more fortunate! He still has something to look at for reminiscing...I finished my."

It was then I understand that I / someone important to mr. Bambam had died. Eventually, mr. Bambam placed the matchbox in a beautifully crafted wooden box and placed it on his table.

As for the other bigger guy who lost his dad, he had immediately lighted the matches while grieving for his dad's death.

I guess missing someone is extremely painful. The bigger guy must have tried to sought some comfort in lighting the matches. But instead, a match will finish burning when it reaches the end. Once it finished its burning, it is resulted to null eventually.

Maybe mr. Bambam understood that logic and refused to light any match because it is the last thing that he can look at and remember the person he lost.

End of dream. So, I woke up crying for both. I think losing someone is an extremely painful thing to go through in life. I've not yet gone through this stage but it will definitely be something that I will go through while I'm still alive.

Especially with grandparents and parents. So what are the things I can remember if they're gone? I seriously have no idea.. Photographs? Gifts they gave?

Okay, and with regards to the song I heard in my dream, I thought very long what it is. After spending 1 hour searching, I finally found it. It's "你怎么舍得我难过" by 黄品源.

When I heard this song, I used to think that it was sung by the singer and the expression of the song is about a girl leaving the guy for someone else. And the singer has loved the girl deeply but the girl didn't appreciate everything he did.

With this dream, it completely changes what I thought the song was about. The song could well have been a song that was for dedicated to a lost loved one who might have unfortunately passed away. And the singer has been missing her, asking her why did she even leave him and if she could appear again for him to look at.. The pain of losing her was unbearable for the singer and he still remains single.

Freaking sad. If the song is put into the context of losing someone you loved :'(

So I guess for every different one, when being presented the same thing, it might have a different meaning.

Give a optimistic person a pile of cow dung as a birthday present and he might think of ways to use it for e.g. fertislisation.
Give a pessimistic person a pile of cow dung as a birthday present and he might think no one cares about him and everyone think he's a shit.

So, two sides of a story, two sides of a coin. Something similar might have different meaning for different people.

Anyway, here's an embedded video of the song that I mentioned:-